Happy New Year to you all. I hope 2017 brings you all the happiness and success that you deserve. So far, it has been an up and down time for me - which is fairly consistent with the general pattern of my life - but I always manage to pick myself up from the down times.
I have started doing 'Facebook Live' videos, which I find fun, but I am also feeling a bit more of an urge to write this year. I thought I might end up starting a new blog, but, for now, I will continue with this one.
So what's on my mind at the moment? Well, where I'm at is about following my own pathway and guidance. A few guys participated in an online chat led by my excellent friend Pete, and some of us talked about reading lots of books and looking for advice from others. Or, in a nutshell, looking for others to guide you in life, and believing that others know more about how to live life than you.
I'm not saying you should ignore other people's guidance, and it's right for you to be influenced by others, as long it's in a good way - but I have come to realise - eventually - that I know more about myself than anyone else, and I have the right to make decisions based on my own inner guidance and what feels right for me. I have cut right down on reading self-help/spiritual books - I used to constantly look for a book to 'fix me' in some way, either because I felt fucked up or because I was just plain unsure how I was supposed to live life.
Often, people make decisions to please other people (particularly family members) or because society says something should be done a certain way. Many people are stuck in unfulfilling careers because someone else said they should find a secure job with good money, rather than follow what their heart was telling them. People get married to someone they're not crazy about. People have kids because they feel they should rather than because they really want them.
And often times, we are plain unsure what it is that we want out of life. It would be nice if it was obvious what our life purpose is from an early age, but very few people fall into this category. Usually, it takes time and small steps to discover what we really want. Sometimes, people stumble across something by chance that turns into a real passion.
Try new things. Ask your inner guide (and I believe we all have one) what you really want from life. But ultimately, it's time for us to get in touch with our true selves. Don't feel bad just because you want or don't want something (easier said than done sometimes). Have faith that life will bring the things you desire (advice to self there). Be confident in yourself that you know what's best for you (this is something that came to me last night). Sometimes we put other people (particularly spiritual teachers) on a pedestal - but however 'enlightened' someone appears to be, you don't have to resonate with everything they say. You are your own best guide.