Friday, 13 January 2012

Comparison games

Who in this earth does not compare themselves to other people? It is a pretty much universal trait. Sometimes it can probably be beneficial, but more often than not, it's detrimental. The other day, I was hearing about someone (I think a teenage girl) who was thinking of going on a diet because .. 'it works for BeyoncĂ©' .. which is a bit extreme, and an obvious case of someone putting an outwardly successful human being on a pedestal.

We may laugh at that, but we're all guilty of putting certain people on pedestals from time to time .. or on the opposite end of the scale, we can see ourselves as being useless and that almost everyone else is better than us. In my case, I'm probably more guilty of the latter. As I have mentioned in an earlier post, I have tended to focus on the things I am not so good at, and think that everyone else is doing better than me. Now there are some things I am very good at, and I am more successful than others in certain ways .. but for some reason us humans seem more genetically programmed to focus on the negative.

I think that comparison and competition arise because we have lost the essence of our true selves. Most of us work in jobs that do not reflect who we truly are, and life is so busy these days, that it can be hard to take the time to just BE. Well, there is enough time, but quietening our minds is not an easy thing.

There are various things we use to compare ourselves to others such as: our career, our personality, our looks, our weight, our relationships, our bank balance, our families .. the list goes on. Whilst these things are important, we have put too much emphasis on these outer things and neglected what is on the inside. Whilst outer factors can certainly contribute to our happiness, happiness is an inside job, as they say .. so we need to get as happy as we can, whatever our circumstances.

It is very easy to compare ourselves to other people, so much so that half the time we probably don't even realise we're doing it. Whilst it's probably unrealistic to expect ourselves to stop the comparison games in our head anytime soon, what we can do is BECOME AWARE when we are doing it, without judging ourselves. Let's be honest, most people in this world have insecurities and are probably not all that sorted. Even people, such as BeyoncĂ©, have their own struggles. We need to be the best version of ourselves that we can be.

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