Monday, 9 April 2012

The 'shadow side' ..

This is a subject that has come to my attention quite a bit recently. The 'shadow side' is something that all of us have, the parts of us that are not pretty and that we would rather not show to the world. And often, we can deny that we have them. But we all have a bad side that can be triggered if things get bad enough. Most of us would probably like to think that we do not have any violence in our character. I normally hate seeing any form of violence but, I certainly have times where I feel like using a baseball bat if I had one (mainly to smash the windows of cars who have been way too close to my bonnet for my liking). And I would guess that a fair few killings were not done by typically 'violent' people, but people who had been pushed over the edge and then shown the darkest side of their character - killings of ex-partners for example after they had an affair. The fact is, of course, that most of the time, we thankfully don't act on these 'bad' feelings because we know better .. but that doesn't mean that we don't have any seeds of violence or hatred inside us.

And so often, it's easy to act 'nice' because we don't want to get hurt or embarrassed. I am very good at doing this. Sometimes I get called a nice person, but the reality probably is .. I'm not really that nice. I can get easily upset or offended if someone violates my boundaries, and I find it hard to form close friendships partly for this reason .. and I suspect also that I have a deep down fear that I could end up losing my temper with someone and maybe even hurting them, which I don't want to do, so sometimes it is easier to keep my distance from people.

I have had enough hurt and pain to last a lifetime and beyond, and if something triggers this pain, I can end up displaying my 'shadow side' if I'm not careful. The key is, I think, and certainly other people with more wisdom than me say this, to accept and perhaps even embrace the dark side of yourself, admit that it is there, become aware of your shadow side and let the pain and feelings come out. Most people are afraid of truly feeling their pain because they fear it will be too overwhelming. It is important to truly allow your feelings and hurts and pain to be as they are rather than resist them - too often people are prescribed pills to deal with their emotions because we just haven't been taught to accept our pain rather than run away from it. I believe that the best way to ensure that our shadow side doesn't play too big a part in our life is to allow as much emotional pain as is necessary to come to the surface. It's easier said than done, for sure. We've all run away from our feelings at times. But now is the time to trust the Universe, now is the time of change, now is the time to be honest with ourselves and admit that maybe we're not as holy as we might have thought.

Hope this makes sense ... Peace, love and blessings


  1. Thanks Andy, I really enjoy reading your posts. :-)

    I had a reading today which relates to this.. thought I would share with you... seems we are often going through similar shifts!
    'Realise that any perception or belief you have about yourself or others is actually a deception more than it is a perception. What you perceive to be your dark side or shadow self holds a hidden treasure. As humans, we rarely see the full picture in any situation because we are forever stuck in the illusion of good and bad. You judge your positive and negative qualities and strive to be more of what you perceive to be positive while attempting to disown or neglect those aspects which you consider to be negative. By holding this belief, you fail to realise that all serves a purpose and that all benefits you in some way.

    Everything in our world is made up of positive and negative charges, which together make a whole. You are experiencing this, guided by your soul because you are ready to move onto the next level of conscious awareness. Over the coming months you will find yourself questioning many of your long held beliefs and you will realise that many of them are simply illusions that only serve to keep you feeling small, inadequate or restricted. This reading heralds the start of a wondrous and empowering period of your life which brings to the surface many beautiful experiences and opportunities which, in the past, you never thought possible.' xx

  2. Hey thanks for your comment and I completely agree with you, things are definitely starting to change - I will check your blog out properly, it looks good :)


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