Wednesday, 10 April 2013

Life purpose & Career

This is definitely a favourite topic of the self-help and spiritual arena. And also can be a bit of a complicated one, so I'm going to try and dissect it a bit.

How should the words 'Life purpose' be defined? Because, let's face it, they are a bit of a cliché. A lot of the time, we think of life purpose in terms a vocation/job/career. So in that case, JK Rowling's primary life purpose is/was to write. And often, we think of Life Purpose as being exclusively titled to supposed 'significant' jobs - like writer, musician, activist, businessman. But what of people who do jobs such as cleaning, and enjoy it? Can that be their life purpose? I certainly believe it can.

But, life purpose isn't exclusively limited to career. Life purpose can cover a whole variety of forms. Being a parent is another one, although it could probably be argued that that is almost a full-time job in itself. To give you a clearer idea, let's say there's someone who is always positive and willing to encourage other people. That can be part of his/her life purpose. Any good quality that someone has, ie. being a good listener, being a good friend, loving someone .. I believe that can all be part of an individual's purpose.
Really, in essence, the purpose of life is to love. So, whatever we do, if we do it with love, it is part of our life's purpose. Do you agree?

But, at the same time, our career, what we 'do', is surely a big part of our life's purpose, so I want to now look at this in more detail. So many people are doing jobs that are not their life purpose, and they know it. How can I say this? Because I definitely now believe that life purpose is interlinked with love, and if you are not doing something you love, then it is not your true life purpose. The vast majority of people, sadly, never go beyond putting money as the deciding factor to what they do. It is very sad that many people work in jobs they don't love for 40 years and then retire later on in life. But most people have been conditioned with the 'get a job' mindset.
And it's not necessarily easy to break out of it, especially if someone has no concept of things like the Law of Attraction. Even if you are open minded, a phrase like 'Do what you love and the money will follow' can be hard to digest when you have been conditioned by fear based thinking. And also, it's tempting to want either a quick fix or for things to come easily.

Also, let's say we want to be a writer, which I do. People will say that you have no chance. And then our own thinking makes us think along the lines that if we ever make money from writing, it will be too far ahead in the future. Or, if we want to run a retreat centre, we can baulk at the amount of money we might need, and give up our plans before we even start.

These kind of thoughts can cause a conflict because we're caught between wanting to do something, thinking that it is our life purpose, but struggling to see how we can get started or how we can make money from it. A lot of fear revolves around money, in my opinion this has a lot to do with money being such a taboo subject but that's another discussion entirely. We can then go round playing mental movies of how we will be destitute unless we go back to doing a 9 to 5 job. Or how we could end up in ruin if something that we invest a lot of money in through a bank loan, doesn't work out.

There is also another big issue which I think needs to be resolved, whatever it takes. Which is, a lot of the time, people don't know what they want. I've certainly been there, and most of us have been. The reasons for this can vary, but this often means we end up in jobs that we don't really have much time for, just because they pay the bills. We end up finding it easier to name what we don't want. I think it's important that we start off by determining what we really want, even if we can't find an answer straight away. Don't worry about money for a moment. Think about what you really want to do, what you would do if money was not an issue. What really gets you excited? And it doesn't have to be work - it can be travelling.

Infuse this desire with love, be determined to do it whatever it takes. As Julia Cameron says 'What you are meant to do is what you really want to do'. And trust that you will be given the tools to make it happen - if you need to have a job to pay the bills in the meantime, that's fine. Trust that the right people will come. But be open to being more creative as well. Myself, I have no job at the moment so I might need to think outside the box.

There is possibly more to say so I may do another post on this. But that's all for now.

Lots of love

1 comment:

  1. Totally relate, and that follow your bliss is all well and good when your discovering your bliss. My problem is with trust but after doing hooponopono recently realise no such thing as problems only perception of problems.


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