Sunday, 5 January 2014

What do you want from life?

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I have heard it said many times that you need to know what you want. This is all well and good, and it's great if you do know what you want and are able to focus towards your aims. But what if you are not sure about the things you want? Read on ...

In order to live the life we really want, we need to return to our hearts. During our childhood, we are not taught that we can have whatever we want. The school system is very much part of the 'system', and kids are encouraged to find a 'good career'. So people end up saying things like 'I want to be a solicitor' or 'I want to be an accountant', when really, they would rather be doing things such as writing, designing, making innovative products or painting (and probably don't even know it in many cases). Most conventional careers today are not creative. How many people would do the jobs they are doing today if money was not the reason? Very few.

Many people, myself included, reach adulthood without knowing what we want to do with our lives. The system of today has money at its core. I sometimes say that the three most important things to most businesses are money, money and money. Definitely the easiest way to get money is by doing a job. This has produced many slaves to the system. If you don't know what you really want to do by the time you're in your twenties, chances are you'll end up in an adequate job that pays the bills, but one that you would rather not have to do.



Eventually, like me, you may well get to a place where you know you need a change, but you're not sure exactly what. We get so used to doing things in a particular way that it can be hard to think in a different way.

And what if it's okay to not know what we want? This, of course, can apply to all sorts of areas, including relationships (both friendships and romantic), whether we want children or not, the way in which we bring up children, the kind of place we want to live .. the list goes on. And often, we think of what we want in terms of what we 'do'.

If you are not sure what you want, or if you do have an idea of what you want but less of an idea how to make it happen - accept where you are right now. You may be doing something right now that you definitely DO NOT want to do - which is the case with me and my job at the moment. It's important to keep your heart open during these times, and trust that the universe has your back.

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Maybe what life wants from YOU right now, is to be at one with the uncertainty of it all. The greatest message you can give to the world is by the life you live and the example you show to others. Maybe life may have other plans for you than what you think you want - I don't know about you, but sometimes I think I want something and then I question it. So it's important to be flexible.

The phrase 'allowing life to unfold' can be taken in a negative or positive context. It can seem like giving up to some people, and indeed some spiritual teachers do seem to think of it in that way. But, for me, it's more a case of having a 'yes' attitude towards life, and central to this is allowing myself to grow as a person. I find my heart becomes a little more open when I allow life to be as it is. The mind lives in the past and future, the heart lives in the now. I believe that as we become more and more in touch with our hearts, they will reveal more and more of our life path. And we can then make plans and take action in an inspired way.

You may be desperate to get out of a bad situation, and may be worried that you will stay stuck if you don't 'do' lots of things. That's understandable. But the more we resist or fight against a bad situation, the more it persists. So now is a good a time as any to allow life to be as it is and keep our hearts open as much as possible.

2 comments:

  1. Hi, Andy, good post.
    I mostly agree, the only thing that I would add is to not allow fear to stop you from making a change. I know that I've been in my day job for many years and although most of the time it's okay, I sometimes get stressed with it. For people who are desperately unhappy all the time, I think often fear keeps them stuck because they worry what will happen when they leave or take action. This is where I think its time to take action. If we always allow life to unfold without any action, then it won't be able to unfold as it should. There's a difference between allowing and being stuck.

    Great topic :)

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  2. True, taking action is a part of letting life unfold. It's something I've struggled with due to fear but it's about time this changed. Thanks Rachel.

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