Sunday, 2 March 2014

Taking action - or not

Picture by Steffi J B
I am a master at procrastination. If there was a degree in the art of procrastination, I could probably get first class honours. I'm sure many other people can relate to this. Also, I had a reading recently where the person that channelled said that I find the 'being' side of things easier than the 'doing'.

Taking action in order to get a desired result is something I do not find easy. Something in me often seems to be resistant to it - I would prefer it if things came to me rather than me going after them. But obviously, this kind of thinking is not going to produce the desired results, a lot of the time. It certainly hasn't in terms of career and relationships.

However, I do think that there is a bit of an imbalance in the 'do, do, do' culture which is so prevalent in British society and particularly the work environment. So I guess, as with anything, I want to try and find out what works best for me when it comes to 'being' and 'doing'.

THE FEAR OF REJECTION/FAILURE

Often, I think the underlying fear of 'doing' something is that it won't work out - and therefore it will be a waste of time doing it. There could be some other subconscious fears that I'm not aware of - but sometimes it seems easier to not do something than to do it. And sometimes, I think it can be wise NOT to do something. For example, if you have been hurt in the past and taking action has the potential to trigger that hurt, it could make things worse. Smaller steps can be better, like getting a bit more self-acceptance and self-love, or going into therapy. Only you know what is best for you.



And sometimes, I can feel tired and just not feel like doing things which I know could do with being done. I get frustrated with myself, but I know I need to listen to my body and not over exert myself. Sometimes I wonder whether it is my body telling me that it's okay not to do something, or whether it's my resistance of doing things that is coming to the fore. Although I am feeling a bit tired and drained this afternoon - I have been away this weekend and done a lot of driving - and also I have been waking up early recently on a number of occasions.

Maybe I just need to accept that I don't enjoy the 'doing' side of things, without trying to work out the reasons why, ie. whether it's something to do with a past life :) - and just do the best I can. And not worry so much about getting things done within a particular timescale.

GETTING YOURSELF IN A BETTER PLACE 

In order to achieve the right balance between 'being' and 'doing', I do think it's important to take action from a good place. If we do things and expect them not to work out, the chances are they won't work out. Being in tune with the flow of life and living from the heart is important, although not necessarily easy. Often we can end up in situations by default rather than desire - an unfulfilling job is an obvious example of this. If we are not in a good place within ourselves, we will end up in situations that are dictated to us - or at least it seems that way. I don't necessarily go along with all the Law of Attraction material - but I do think that positive thinking is more likely to produce positive action and positive results.

Thinking that we deserve good things is a good place to start. Part of my 'problem' is that I haven't felt I deserved good things from life, and so have ended up in situations that I did not want. But this is all part of the bigger picture.

Introverts may not find the 'doing' side of things easy. I want to get myself into a better place and take more inspired action from there. And listen to my heart. As the saying goes 'if something doesn't seem quite right, it probably isn't'. I have been reading Sonia Choquette's book 'Trust Your Vibes' recently. I want to be more in tune with my intuition, and take steps which lead me in the right direction. I'm slowly getting there ..
Take it one step at a time - steps to Whitby Abbey 

How about you? Do you find it easy to take action when you want to achieve something, or difficult? I have found this post a little difficult to write in some ways, but I think it's worth sharing. Maybe you're slightly fed up of the 'stop the excuses' statements from self-help people, which don't really help a great deal. The fear of rejection does not disappear overnight or easily if you've had it really deep. It takes time. Be patient with yourself. Do the best you can.

Sending love
Andy




2 comments:

  1. I feel the doing side naturally takes place when it is time. And the over-achieving mindset will burn people out in the long run. With trust and being fully in the moment, doing comes from that.

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