Saturday, 20 September 2014

Staying grounded and realistic

Nature is a good way to help keep us grounded :) Picture taken at Thruscross.
I don't know about you, but I've fallen into the trap of 'New Age thinking'. The kind of thing I mean, is expecting something 'amazing' to happen by following signs and intuition. I'm not saying this cannot happen, but there are dangers of falling flat on your face if you blindly follow a path without knowing where it's going. You wouldn't walk for miles in a large forest without having any idea of where you are, otherwise you could end up getting lost in the dark without any mobile phone signal.

It's not a perfect analogy, but I know I ended up losing my way earlier this year, and am just starting to get back on my feet again. I was so disillusioned after quitting my last job, disillusioned with UK life, and I thought that trying something different could be the path to freedom that I was desperately craving. I have already talked about what I did in one of my previous posts, so I won't ramble on about that again.

I guess I did the best I could under the circumstances, but I would never want to do anything similar again without any definite plans in place. As I have said before, the danger in reading stories of people that have followed their intuition and changed their lives, can make you think that 'following your heart' is all it takes to be successful.

I've learnt the hard way that it's just not like that. A key ingredient to changing your life is HARD WORK. I love reading the full stories of people who have established a successful spiritual business. Mastin Kipp, from The Daily Love, has just released a brilliant new book called 'Growing Into Grace', and he talks about some of the challenges he faced along the way. Often, all we see when we are jealous of someone else's success, is the end product. We don't always know about the immense challenges that 'successful' people have faced along the way, and part of the reason people are successful is because they are able to navigate challenges and difficulties that most wage slaves would not be able to.

You don't need to use your intuition to tell you that you should get a job, if there isn't another source of income that can pay the bills. Being on jobseekers allowance isn't particularly cool, although I am grateful for the UK benefits system. I did ask the universe to help find me the right job (although it was not possible for me to find a job I love at this time) and I had a hunch that I would find something in August .. and so I did. It's worth doing that, but stay realistic. You aren't going to magically land your dream job, but neither are you inferior to anyone who is making a living from something they love.

Without wishing to offend people, I would think that a fair percentage of people who have managed to set up their business or whatever, have had help from a partner or friends, or their parents. It's certainly not easy doing everything on your own. Mastin Kipp did follow his heart and is now selling out at conferences around the world and running a very successful internet community, but he certainly had some help along the way. He says in the book that 'there is no such thing as a self made man'. Maybe part of my problem is that I don't like getting help from others, and would like to say 'Ooooh I made it on my own'. But that's just my ego talking. If we are to live our best lives, we will need some help from others, and be open to whatever form of help comes. It's unwise to quit your job, unless, like in my case, it is affecting your health and well being. Whilst these books about following your intuition are good, and following your intuition is important, don't be silly in the process. The journey is more about the person that YOU ARE and your strength of character, rather than however many angels are sitting on your shoulder.

Stay grounded, trust the process, make the best you can from life, know what is realistic and what isn't .. and surrender to 'what is'. That's all you can do really :)

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