Sunday, 5 October 2014

When the same things happen over and over again ..

Sometimes it seems like life is trying to do its best to piss you off. You encounter a situation you don't want, escape from it, and then, a little while later, you come up against exactly the same situation or similar. This could be a situation related to work, romantic relationships, family relationships, friendships, money, unemployment .. you name it.

I've come up against a few such situations just this year. And boy, is it easy to think something along the lines of: 
- Life has got it in for me. 
- Why is everything so hard. 
- Why are these unwanted situations cropping up again and again. 
All these 'why' questions, which are so disempowering.

Many people do this. It does seem uncanny how life keeps bringing up the same external circumstances to stress you out .. however, I am gradually starting to realise that these situations are coming up because, on some level, there is something within myself that needs to change. Let me explain. 

Ride that wave :o)
Let's take work, for example. As some of you know, I have had a lot of challenges within the workplace during the last couple of years in particular. I do think the work environment has changed a lot over the last few years, and I don't really want to get into flaky new age thinking such as 'You are the cause of every situation you find yourself in.' However, things are what they are at present, and wherever I work, a similar situation of busy-ness and pressure is likely to crop up. But I think that it is important how I handle the situation - if I run away from it and react, it could affect my future in a negative way. The key is to be at peace with the hectic nature of my job as much as I can. It's not easy when you're sensitive, and the harsh work environments of today are definitely not made for sensitive people. But I think that life is challenging me to change on some level, and work is just one of the ways that this is happening. When you accept a situation as it is, and do not take it personally, then you open the door for more blessings to enter your life. Surrender is the key - meaning that you ride the wave rather than push against it - pushing against waves is not an easy job. 

When you come up against situations you don't want - and particularly if they happen more than once - pay attention, because there is a hidden blessing within these seemingly 'bad' situations. I do believe that every situation I am currently facing or have been facing, is leading me to a greater understanding and love of myself. It can be hard when it seems like most people have it easier than yourself in certain ways - and I have certainly felt that, when it comes to relationships, friendships and career. But life ain't always fair, however, the people who have been through the biggest storms can become awesome teachers and healers. Everything starts with you. As I've been told recently, through different sources, stress is an inside job. Now, there are certain obvious situations that need to be escaped from, such as abusive relationships. But sometimes, you just need to take a deep breath and work your way through something that you are getting stressed about. It may take time to change thought patterns that have existed for years. But it is worth it. 

I do believe that, once you change your reactions to so called 'negative' situations, that external situations will change. But everything starts with you. Instead of asking 'why is this happening' ask yourself 'what do I need to learn from this'. 

Hope you enjoyed this read .. I would be interested to know your thoughts. Leave a comment! 

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