Monday, 8 December 2014

Crossing the bridge of fear

'Everything you want is on the other side of fear' - Pema Chodron.

Isn't it funny, that the things we really want are sometimes things that we will need to face our internal demons in order to obtain. And so often we can be sabotaged by our own fears, which can then cause us to get annoyed with ourselves .. and the mind games go on and on.

It would be nice if things came easy, but true rewards never come easy. The reason why (at least in my experience) we are scared of taking action is because we think something may happen that is worse than our current situation.
Let's illustrate this. The desire to change career is an obvious example. I want to change career having been stuck in dead end jobs for a while .. but I'm scared I'll end up penniless and with no support if I choose to follow my heart. I think that's a fairly common one.

The mind looks for guarantees. But at the end of the day, there are no guarantees - the relationship may not work out like you hope, the business may not generate the income you'd like, your child may not turn out the way you'd like. I know my mind can easily play out future scenarios. It does my head in at times.

Sometimes we need to cross that scary bridge .. although this
particular bridge in Burnsall isn't scary ..

Eventually, we get to a place where we have to stop playing safe, and take the plunge. It's important to trust life. Life knows what is for your highest good. It's good to have an idea of what you want, but sometimes, life may have other plans. As I start my forties tomorrow, I want to follow my heart. I don't know where this will take me, and it may be downright scary at times, but I'm sick of playing safe, sick of struggling in stressful jobs, sick of having no romantic relationship and few close friendships. This doesn't mean that I can't be happy in myself. In fact, it's vitally important to start with yourself. But the reason why I have struggled for so long is mostly down to internal factors, not other people.

At the same time, it's important not to rush things. Healing takes time. A lot of people are being shaken up at the moment - this last month has been off the scale in terms of planetary energies. These things happen to help build character. I don't have all the answers to life's questions by any means .. but I know I need to face my biggest fears head on.

Until later


  1. I think it's great that this is how 'hopeful' life seems to you, Andy! You are right, there are no certainties in life, and we usually can cope with whatever comes our way.

    Thanks. Hope you continue writing!



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