Monday, 2 November 2015


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Last time out, I talked about trust. Patience is something that goes hand in hand with trust - you will need to trust, certainly yourself and life, and probably others, in order to be patient - but it's a slightly different topic. What exactly does patience mean? I really like this definition from Google:

The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.

Great definition, right? Wikipedia defines patience as:

.. the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on negative annoyance/anger. 

I've always thought of patience in terms of something that has a timeframe - ie. something that doesn't happen as quickly as you might like. It is very easy to be focused on external circumstances and to want them to happen quickly. But sometimes, life might have other plans. The thing that we think we want is not necessarily what we need at the time.

Sometimes, we may have to go through a process of deep inner healing, and not be so focused on externals like relationships, money and jobs. And this involves a lot of patience in oneself. Personally, it seems like life is taking me deeper into the realms of my own consciousness, and it's not likely to be an easy process to uncover and face the negative subconscious programming that has kept me held back for decades. It's not always easy to be patient when you know that things might take time.

Undoubtedly, one of the biggest reasons I can find it hard to be patient is because it can seem that, outwardly, most people are ahead of me. Being out of work does not help matters. Whatever the super-positive-self-help do gooders might say, it can be difficult to not compare yourself to others at times, especially when you have had a difficult set of circumstances and personality traits to deal with.
So if you're the type that has a tendency to play the comparison game, don't beat yourself up for it. Acknowledge that you consciously or subconsciously compare yourself to others, and then do the best you can to live your life, and become more aware of your magnificence and divinity.
I guess that we need a strong inner conviction to press on forward and live our best life. In those times where it seems like nothing's happening, sometimes what's needed is a good cry and deep breaths.
Don't expect yourself to have the patience of a saint. When other people appear to be doing better than you, don't sugar coat these feelings by making abundance affirmations that you don't believe. Just start from where you are, and know that increased patience will bring greater blessings into your life.

A friend of mine posted on Facebook that 'impatience is actually a subtle face and guise of some resistance and emotional pain.' There's little doubt that impatience is a form of resistance and a way to attempt to avoid emotional pain. It may well be hard for us to face delays or problems - and humans often have the tendency to want to experience pleasure and avoid pain. Our society has succumbed to the instant gratification, wanting-everything-now mode of thinking. I think I read somewhere that this desire for instant gratification is part of the reason for mental illness/imbalance.

Life does not hand us everything on a plate. Trust that life is evolving at the right pace for you, and take one day at a time - it can be very stressful worrying about the future. As the Facebook post goes 'Everything will come to you in the right moment. Be patient'.

I think patience is one thing that I definitely need to focus on, and this is part of the reason I wrote this post. Any comments as ever are welcome.

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